
Writing wedding vows can feel emotional and overwhelming—but with a little structure and authenticity, yours can be heartfelt, memorable, and “you.” Here are some tips to guide you:
Give yourself time. Vows feel harder when rushed, so start jotting thoughts weeks (or months) ahead.
Think about:
How you met
A moment you knew they were “the one”
What you admire most about them
Challenges you’ve overcome together
Your hopes for the future
These reflections often become the most meaningful lines.
Decide together:
Romantic?
Sweet but simple?
Lighthearted with humor?
Traditional and serious?
A shared tone keeps vows cohesive during the ceremony.
Here’s an easy formula that works for almost everyone:
Open with a personal story or sentiment
Express what you love about them
Make your promises (the “vows”)
Acknowledge the future you want to build
End with a meaningful line (a hope, a blessing, a funny promise, a heartfelt statement)
Go beyond the clichés with vows that matter to your relationship. Possibilities:
“I promise to always make time for us.”
“I promise to speak to you with patience, even when we disagree.”
“I promise to celebrate your wins as if they are my own.”
“I promise to be your partner in all things, not just the easy ones.”
A few deeply truthful promises beat a long list.
Include inside jokes, shared hobbies, phrases you use with each other, or specific quirks you adore. These make your vows feel uniquely yours.
Aim for 1–2 minutes when read aloud.
After drafting:
Remove repeated ideas
Read it out loud
Check that it flows naturally
Practice reading your vows out loud a few times so the pacing feels right. Bring a written copy the day of—emotion can make words hard to remember.
Write like you talk. Simple, sincere language hits harder than poetic lines that don’t sound like you.
Some ceremonies have certain requirements or restrictions (especially religious ones). Make sure your vows fit the format.



